what is love?
Love is a feeling. When a person is needed by others, he can feel his own value; when a child is needed by an adult, he can feel how great his young life is, so he feels a deep love.
I remember one time, I went to Chongqing to set up a "smart phone." Rao Qin, Minister of the Youth Department of the Chongqing Municipal Committee of the Communist Party of China, took her four-year-old daughter with me to visit the scenic area.
As soon as I entered the mountain, the little girl asked me, "Have you been here?"
"I have never been here. If I get lost, I will definitely not find my home." I pretended to be very distressed.
"It doesn't matter, it's me!" The little girl immediately held my hand firmly and said to me with confidence.
"Okay, okay, I'm relieved to have you." I answered happily.
It's time to go up the mountain by cable car. I've never been in that cable car, and I'm really nervous.
"No, I'm scared. I will fall to death." I pretended to be worried.
"Don't be afraid, there is me!" The little girl expertly helped me get on the cable car, next to me tightly, smiled and said to me, "how about, don't you be afraid? With me you can rest assured. "
I was touched by this cute girl all of a sudden. I feel that it feels good to be loved and "cared" by the child!
When they parted, she asked me, "Are you having fun?"
I crouched down, looked at her beautiful eyes, and said emotionally: "Thank you today, I am so happy that I am not afraid at all!"
"The next time you come, please call to inform me, I will come with you!" The girl said sincerely, and took out a small note from her pocket with the phone number of her home.
The next day, her mother told me that her daughter was very excited when she returned home. She told her dad that she was an important person. Without her, the "sister who knows her heart" would be "miserable".
For adults, accepting children's love is happy and joyful; for children, giving love to others, others can understand, accept, and perceive, is happier than accepting the love of adults! However, many of our parents have monopolized their children's opportunities for love and deprived them of the right to love. In a one-child family, children are surrounded by the love of various adults. All adults are "stronger" and "powerful" than children. Children do not have the opportunity to love adults, but are "dead to life" .
A girl is doing homework at home, and dad is back from work. The child just received the education of love in school. She immediately poured a cup of tea and handed it to her father: "Daddy, please drink tea!"
Who knows, Dad said coldly: "Go and do your homework! Don't take the opportunity to run out and play! Whoever pours tea with you is better than 100!
The spark of love that just came out of the child's heart was ruthlessly extinguished by the parents again and again. Gradually, the child understood that what his parents asked was that he take the high scores and attend key schools, and that everything else was unnecessary. However, this is not a goal that all children can achieve! As a result, many children became discouraged, cynical, stopped caring about others, and did not know how to love others.
According to a survey in Liaoning Province, 59.18% of parents have no problem in raising their children, giving whatever they want. 27.02% of the monthly allowance for children is above 50 yuan, of which 7.85% is over 100 yuan. Children spend very little time on household chores each week. 18.72% of students do not participate in any household chores at all; 47.78% of students only participate in household chores of less than one hour. Therefore, 60.12% of students do not wash clothes and cook; 54.75% of students need to be picked up and dropped off by parents; 7.81% of children can be "careful about hygiene", and 41.19% of parents wash their feet The water is in front of the child.
In this way, the parents are "tired" and the children "tired". Over time, children believe that these are the things parents should do, and who can make them parents?
Parents who really love their children should be weaker in front of their children and give them a chance to love others. Don't always think of yourself as a mountain, treat your child as a grass, let your child lean on you, look up at you, fear You; don't be a big umbrella, treat your child as a chick, shelter your child from the wind and rain, and make your child weak and fragile.
Change location, change image! Let your child be a mountain, and your child will grow into a mountain; let your child be a big umbrella, and your child will stand up to the sky.