I saw a Weibo saying that parents were afraid of their early love when they were in school, and opposed their early love. But as soon as they graduate, they hope or ask them to find a girlfriend, boyfriend or marriage partner.
This span is naturally unsatisfactory because it is too hasty. Those who are obedient and obedient may do it right away, but picking the object within a short period of time naturally can only look at the appearance, and may only be able to understand the fur. Next, if you fall in love first, time can be longer, and you can also see the other person's personality and whether it is appropriate to run in with each other. If the family urges them to get married, they may get into a blind date someday.
Although it ’s a little early to fall in love in high school, the foundation of first love is put on by grown-ups and see you in society. You know each other well, understand your personalities, and even if there are conflicts, they are not too shocking. And college love, although there are breakups after graduation, but some continue to be together and persist for a lifetime, this persistence, presumably happiness is much higher.
This incident shows that early love and school love are not terrible things. Of course, this is not to encourage students to fall in love exclusively. Many parents are afraid that their children will be hurt early in love. As a result, when they grow up, they will still be thrown into the love world to be hurt. Even if you are not in love and only get married, you are not guaranteed to suffer emotional damage.
As a result, some avant-garde parents said, leave him alone and let them fall in love and be hurt. In this way, we can grow up as soon as possible. Indeed, if parents keep their children under their wings like chickens, and wait for them to grow up and work safely, then plug a girl and let them pair and marry. This is not very realistic, it ’s not humane, and it ’s not the same. Too safe. This person who has not been hurt emotionally, in the face of the bumps in the marriage, may not be able to eat because he will scream.
Of course, some people are afraid of being harmed by themselves, so they dare not fall in love and face the world. Stay at home and be sheltered by your family, stay in your shell and watch the sadness and joy of others in love. Although there is envy and contradiction in my heart, I still have no courage to move forward.
Such a person naturally has a glass heart. Without experiencing the impact of the sunlight and rainstorm outside, and without experiencing the tears of joy in love, you will always have a fragile heart. In this way, you repeatedly remind and warn others that "Your heart is fragile, please handle it lightly" is also useless. People outside will not hold your glass heart all day and will not be careful not to hurt you as much as possible.
Only the parents or a small number of friends and relatives will protect your glass heart. Besides, who cares if you have been hurt? Who cares if you can bear the impermanence and sadness of love?
Therefore, in order to have an unbreakable heart in the long road of love and life, what is needed is not to take care of and find someone to care for, but to expose it to accept the storm. Repeated injury and experience will make your heart harden slowly, and thus not as fragile as glass.